Saturday, 18 February 2012

Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE

Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE

by Sherri Carter, MS, ATH Co-Editor of PsychoSpiritual

Editor’s Note from Sherri Carter: I love Emotional Freedom Technique! It really gets to the root issues, helps to release limiting beliefs while creating new emotional attachments to new truths of possibility! read the rest

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Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom

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Monday, 13 February 2012

The Need for Acceptance

The Need for Acceptance

“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.”
– Tao Te Ching

Before we are born, whilst we are in the womb, we are part of the womb, part of the mother, all connected, an intermingling of chemicals, energy and whatever else is there. When we are born, a physical connection is severed. And we breathe to obtain oxygen and we suckle at the breast for nutrition. Our senses pick up more sensations and we do not yet have the understanding that we are ourselves, that we are separate. We are very aware of how wonderful we feel. We are very aware of being, but we are unaware that what we see is not us. As a baby we feel that everything in our world is us, we cannot distinguish between out there and in here.

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Sunday, 5 February 2012

Digging deeper into 'I can'

Digging deeper into 'I can'

In the last posting I mentioned the importance of ‘I can’, this is important for you in achieving your goal, for it acts as a door opener. It begins to establish a direction which leads to the future, and somewhere along that direction or path is the future you, with the successful attainment of your goal.

The mind automatically follows a direction, and if you are not happy with your results today, then you have followed a direction that is incompatible with your desires. If you are unhappy, with your results so far, then these results are compatible with the direction/path that you are on. You have been following this path for years or if not that long, then since a life changing event. A life changing event creates a change in direction, which is why it is life changing. From the moment the direction changed your life is different.

When articulating the problem, we generally look at the details, yet it is the big picture that needs articulating first. Once you are aware of the big picture, then the details can be seen where they fit into the big picture.

The problem can be detailed such as ‘I am unhappy with my life and I want to be happy with my life’ or something similar. This is the general big picture in relation to happiness. It is important not to look for blame with statements such as ‘I am unhappy because ……’ This is a natural tendency, for we feel if we know the cause then we can fix the problem and we want to fix it as soon as possible. But when we do this, we are simply creating a knee jerk reaction to some minor part in the problem, we are not looking at the big picture.

The problem is that you are experiencing life a certain way and you desire a different experience. Though this is simple, it can be confusing for we are used to seeking details.

Bear with me as I continue to harp on what may seem an insignificant point. When we are struggling in any area and we are unhappy with life, then we naturally look for simplistic causes, for this is the way the conscious mind and our ego function. They are very linear and see everything in terms of A caused B and B caused C. And as it is You (the identity of the ego and conscious mind), then you will simply function this way.

However, your experience of life is determined by the unconscious patterns which are in harmony with the unconscious direction. The pattern and direction always co exist in harmony. The pattern and direction joined together create your life experience.

So in looking to be successful, you need to change the patterns and the direction of your life. To show you a little about the power of patterns and direction, please reflect on these questions:
  1. If you had success now, you were happy with yourself and you were happy with your life, would this fit? Can you see yourself remaining like this for the rest of your life? Are you the type of person who can be like this? Are you worth it? Have you the right to be successful? Do you have permission to be successful? Do not answer too quickly or get angry at the questions, just allow yourself to reflect and be curious of what answers emerge. Because you want to be successful and happy etc, but are there any parts of yourself that do not want this goal. Are any parts of your unconscious that is against you achieving your goal?
  1. What is the worst thing that will happen if you are a success andhappy with yourself etc? This may sound like a weird question, and what is the first response (after you say nothing) you get? It doesn’t matter how ridiculous the answer is.
What could be some of the benefits of remaining how you are?

In every situation there are costs and benefits, in no. 2 above you may be aware of the benefits to being happy, but not the costs and in no. 3 you probably are aware of the costs of having a lack of successs but not the benefits. What you are unaware of is the unconscious motivation and the unconscious is very aware of costs in no.2 and the benefits in no.3.

See how you go with these questions and your reflections. To be continued:

Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct
experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.
-- Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson

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Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom

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Thursday, 2 February 2012

"I Can'

Being happy with yourself – “I can”

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” -- Alvin Toffler

What can I do? This is an important question to ask when one wants to overcome a problem, and being sad and unhappy is a problem for it interferes with the smooth functioning of the body and the appreciation of the life experience. Being sad or unhappy occasionally as a result of certain effects is understandable and desirable. But many are unhappy with themselves and so unhappiness is a continual undercurrent of their life.

So "What can I do?" is asked in relation to the perceived problem. How do you perceive the problem? The first step in finding a solution to a problem is to fully understand and articulate the ‘problem’. Many assume they know what the problem is and yet are actually unaware of the real problem. So the real solution will not be found. You may be unhappy, sad depressed, these are effects or symptoms and though they create additional problems, they are not the problem.

If you are happy with yourself then you will not have these problems. Though this is true, the wrong assumption of finding, trying or know how to be happy will provide happiness and therefore problem solved. Most of the how to be happy techniques only have a temporary effect as they do not address the underlying problem. So without a clear understanding of the problem, when you ask “What can I do?” you become deflated and feel vulnerable, for you probably assume that you can do very little.
This is a huge mistake and a lie. Feeling that you can do little or nothing, you then put your life in the hands of the experts, whoever that may be. It may seem logical to trust these people, but putting your life in the hands of anyone, has the unconscious meaning that you have no control over your life and living. This is detrimental to the healing process. You truly become a victim of your unhappiness rather than master of your health, life and living.

Seeking expert help is extremely beneficial and should be sought, but make sure you are in control. You are enlisting their help and assistance. They are not there to ‘fix’ you, you are there to learn something valuable to use in your life. You are using them to empower yourself. When you ask the question "What can I do?" Answer, "I will be happy with myself", "I will love myself", "I will be healthy" or use “I can” instead of “I will”. “I will” has a commitment applied and is therefore stronger and leads into the future. Though if this doesn't feel true, then use "I can", this accepts the possibility that you or anybody can be happy with themselves. Realize that "I can" or "I will" is more important than knowing how! Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you have to know how. The how will Always appear once you accept "I will".

Knowing and committing to a goal is a prerequisite to knowing how. Once you accept that you will be healthy (or achieve any goal) the creative unconscious mind will create or discover the how to. Become an ‘I can’ person, overcoming obstacles, no matter how difficult, makes you a stronger person. In reality, nothing is too hard or difficult once you admit ‘I can’. When you state ‘I can’ you unleash unconscious potentials, that you most likely were not aware of. You have exactly the right amount of potential and capacity to achieve health and freedom from cancer, within you, this is a fact. ‘I can’ is a gateway to that potential. Try it out! Next i will write about articulating the underling problem.


Recommended Reading
Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom

Posted by Healing Cancer

Wednesday, 25 January 2012

The Power of Attitude

Wow, you have to see this video...

Just received it in an email and passing it on for you to watch

It will guide you into a super-positive attitude, reduce your stress, and help you re-connect to your passion for life! Are you ready for this? ...

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It's called "The Power Of Attitude" Enjoy!


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Wednesday, 18 January 2012

Change your pattern – Change your life

Change your pattern – Change your life

As I have stated often, healing your life occurs as a result of a change in pattern, the pattern is how you operate/function in life. The guiding principle of the pattern is a direction, a pathway to the future. Human nature like all things operates according to universal laws, one of them is the conservation of energy, a principle of this law is the path of least effort, to be efficient, not necessarily effective, and expend the least energy. We form patterns of existing that are reflective and in harmony with the direction of our life. The direction and pattern of existence is firmly in place by the time we are six years old.

We will adhere to that direction for the rest of our lives, it is efficient and so we subconsciously follow the path ahead and ‘come what may’, and our future is on that pathway. Unless something happens that forces us off that pathway.

A change in that pathway/direction is a result of a life changing event, something occurs that results in the pattern/direction and future becoming invalid and a reworking or transformation of the pattern occurs and so a new direction and therefore future occurs.

Following is an example of a change of pattern/direction/pathway and future, it is from Milton Erickson a brilliant hypnotherapist and a truly great understander of human nature and the patterns involved. Though he was not involved in the therapeutic undertakings, he recounts these events, as written in the book ‘Phoenix – Therapeutic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson’ by David Gordon & Meyers-Anderson.

Milton Erickson tells the story of a man named Joe. Joe was one bad dude.

The thing that influenced me most in shaping my thinking in the matter of psychotherapy is. I was living on a farm in Wisconsin in an area where an eighth grade graduation was the ultimate in education. High school was not approved of. Any boy or girl that went to high school, they were on their way to be educated fools. And that was not approved of. When I was about ten years old my father sent me to the neighboring village about a mile away on an errand. And, of course, as I came into the village, my schoolmates this one summer came rushing to meet me and they told me the exciting news – “Joe is back!” I had never heard of Joe, but they soon informed of who Joe was. Joe, at the age of twelve, a farmer’s son and only child, had been expelled from school because of brutality and beating up the other children, his vandalism, his incorrigible behavior …. and he had stabbed his father’s hogs, and calves and cows and horses with pitch forks.

And he several times tried to set the barn to fire and the house afire. Well, at the age of twelve his parents took him to court, had him committed to the Industrial School for boys. At the age of fifteen the Industrial School paroled him. On the way home Joe committed some burglaries and was picked up by the police and promptly returned to the Industrial School, where he had to stay until he was twenty-one years old. By that time his parents were dead and they disposed of their property leaving Joe without any inheritance. And when he was discharged at age twenty-one he was given a suit and $10, and he headed for Milwaukee …. And shortly arrested for burglary and sent to the Young Men’s Reformatory in Green bay. He served every day of that sentence – in other words, no time off for good behavior. He was released from the reformatory, he went into the town of Green Bay, and committed some more burglaries.

The police picked him up and he was sent to state prison. And when he completed every day of that sentence he was released, went into the village and committed some more burglaries and was arrested by another policeman and given a second term in the state prison. After serving every day of that term, he returned to the village. That day I arrived in the village it was his fourth day in town. Each of the three previous days he had spent standing beside the cash register estimating the day’s take of the merchants at three different stores. And all of them knew that Joe had broken into their store and stolen a lot of things. A man who owned a motor boat had found his motor boat missing. And the morning I arrived Joe was sitting on a bench under the store awning staring into the distance.

Now it happened that there was a farmer about three miles from the village, a farmer who had three hundred acres of company land. He was a very rich man, had beautiful buildings, and to work three hundred acres requires a hired man. And his daughter Susie had graduated from eighth grade, she was about five feet ten, and she could work alongside any man in the community. She could pitch hay, plow fields, help with the butchering … any task she could handle. The entire community felt bad about Susie. She was a good looking girl, she was famous for her housekeeping, her dressmaking and her cooking, and she was an old maid at twenty-three years. And that should not be. Everybody thought Susie was too choosy.

On that particular day when I went to the village on the errand, Susie’s father’s hired hand quit, because of a death in the family and said he would not be back. And Susie arrived, tied up the horse and buggy, came walking down the street. And Joe stood up and blocked her pathway. And Joe looked her up and down very thoroughly, quietly … and Susie with equal poise looked him up and down very thoroughly. Finally Joe said. “Can I take you to the dance next Friday?” Now the village always had a weekly dance on Friday nights for all the young people. And Susie was very much in demand at those dances and she regularly drove in and attended the dance. And when Joe said, “Can I take you to the dance next Friday?” Susie said coolly, “You can if you’re a gentleman.”

Joe stepped out of her way. She performed her errand, went back. And the next morning the merchants were very glad to find boxes full of stolen goods at their front doors. And the motor boat had returned. And Joe was seen walking down the highway towards Susie’s father’s farm. Word soon got around that he had asked Susie’s father for the job of hired hand, and he was hired. And made a magnificent wage of $15 per month. He was allowed to have his meals in the kitchen with the family. And Susie’s father said, “We’ll fix a room for you in the barn.”

Joe turned out to be the best hired hand that community had ever seen. Joe worked from sun up to long past sun down, seven days a week. Joe was six feet three, a very able bodied man and, of course, Joe always walked to the village on Friday nights to attend the dance. Susie drove in to attend the dance. And much to the ire of the other young men, Susie usually danced with Joe every dance. And Joe’s size made then wary of pointing out to Joe the error of his way by appropriating Susie. In just about a year the community was buzzing with the gossip because Susie and Joe were seen going out Saturday evening for a drive, or ‘sparking’, as the term was used. And there was even more gossip the next day – on Sunday - Susie and Joe went to church together.

And thereafter for some months, Joe and Susie went for a drive every Saturday evening and to church on Sunday. And after some months of this, Susie and Joe were married. And Joe moved from the barn into the house. He was still the best hired man imaginable and Joe and his father-in-law. With some aid of Susie, ran the farm. And Joe was such a good worker that when a neighbor got sick, Joe was the first one to show up to help with the chores. And they soon forgot all about Joe’s history of being an ex convict.

Now when I decided to go to high school a lot of the neighbors were displeased. But Joe encouraged me to go to high school and encouraged a lot of other kids to go to high school. I decided to go to university – the neighbors groaned about that Erickson kid becoming an educated fool and Joe encouraged me to go to college. He thought it was a very excellent idea for all young people to go to college. And Joe’s popularity in the neighborhood was such that he was elected to the school board. And at the first meeting of the school board all the parents were there. And Joe opened the meeting by saying, “You folks have elected me president of the school board. You gave me the most votes and that means president. Now I don’t know much about school. I know all of you want your kids to grow up decent kids with an education so they can live better lives than working from sun up to long after sun down seven days a week … and when you educate your children forget about taxes – hire the best teachers, and get the best school supplies, the best books.” And Joe was elected to the school board repeatedly. And Joe’s reputation literally blossomed anew from the day he hired out for $15 a month, which was later raised to $30 a month.

Eventually Susie’s parents died and Susie inherited the farm. Joe and Susie had no children but Joe had no trouble getting hired men. He went to the state reformatory for young men and asked for any young, promising ex-convict from the reformatory. The reformatory was for first time offenders.

Some of those men lasted a day, a week, a month, and some for months. As long as they worked Joe kept them around and treated them well. And he served to rehabilitate quite a number of ex convicts. When I got my job as state psychologist for Wisconsin to examine all inmates in penal and correctional institutions, Joe was very happy for me, and Joe told me. “There’s an old record at the Industrial School that you ought to read, an old record at the reformatory that you ought to read, an old record at the state prison that you ought to read.”

I knew what Joe meant, so I read the Industrial School record. It was very, very violent, Joe had been incorrigible, destructive and brutal in relationship to the other boys there and he had been kept in solitary confinement most of the time from the age of twelve to twenty-one. And his record at Green Bay reformatory was equally black. Joe had been very combative, aggressive. He was kept in solitary, took his meals in solitary. The guards were afraid of him. And when Joe was allowed out of his cell to exercise, two husky guards his size or larger walked through the exercise yard with him … one guard ten feet to the right, the other ten feet to the left. If Joe were to jump on one of them the second guard would have the chance to jump to the rescue of his fellow guard.

The record at the State prison was very, very black. Joe displayed his combativeness, his aggressiveness, his capacity to beat up fellow convicts and he served most of the time in the dungeon. The dungeon was eight feet by eight feet by eight feet, the floor sloped toward the door. It was a very thick, heavy wooden door with a small slot in the door at the base of the door and once a day, usually at one or two A.M a tray of food would slip quietly through that slot. And once a week the cell was hosed out for sanitation purposes. Now I’ve been in that dungeon … it is sound proof and light proof. And living in that darkness and silence practically all of his two terms in state prison is pretty severe punishment. And Joe never got a day off. When they did take him out of the dungeon they locked him in a solitary cell. He was exercised by two guards accompanying him, all alone in the exercise yard.

Now after the first sentence had been served at the prison, he went to the village and committed robberies and was sent back to the prison and they were all afraid of Joe. And the fellow convicts who I interviewed who knew Joe told me very earnestly. “That Joe is a bad one!” and they were afraid of him. And all the psychotherapy Joe received was; “You can if you’re a gentleman”.
Joe had a reason to change and create a new life, in an instant he became a new man.
I wonder what reason or purpose you will discover to have the life that you want?
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Sunday, 15 January 2012

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
-- Richard Bach

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