Wednesday 25 January 2012

The Power of Attitude

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Wednesday 18 January 2012

Change your pattern – Change your life

Change your pattern – Change your life


As I have stated often, healing your life occurs as a result of a change in pattern, the pattern is how you operate/function in life. The guiding principle of the pattern is a direction, a pathway to the future. Human nature like all things operates according to universal laws, one of them is the conservation of energy, a principle of this law is the path of least effort, to be efficient, not necessarily effective, and expend the least energy. We form patterns of existing that are reflective and in harmony with the direction of our life. The direction and pattern of existence is firmly in place by the time we are six years old.

We will adhere to that direction for the rest of our lives, it is efficient and so we subconsciously follow the path ahead and ‘come what may’, and our future is on that pathway. Unless something happens that forces us off that pathway.

A change in that pathway/direction is a result of a life changing event, something occurs that results in the pattern/direction and future becoming invalid and a reworking or transformation of the pattern occurs and so a new direction and therefore future occurs.

Following is an example of a change of pattern/direction/pathway and future, it is from Milton Erickson a brilliant hypnotherapist and a truly great understander of human nature and the patterns involved. Though he was not involved in the therapeutic undertakings, he recounts these events, as written in the book ‘Phoenix – Therapeutic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson’ by David Gordon & Meyers-Anderson.



Milton Erickson tells the story of a man named Joe. Joe was one bad dude.

The thing that influenced me most in shaping my thinking in the matter of psychotherapy is. I was living on a farm in Wisconsin in an area where an eighth grade graduation was the ultimate in education. High school was not approved of. Any boy or girl that went to high school, they were on their way to be educated fools. And that was not approved of. When I was about ten years old my father sent me to the neighboring village about a mile away on an errand. And, of course, as I came into the village, my schoolmates this one summer came rushing to meet me and they told me the exciting news – “Joe is back!” I had never heard of Joe, but they soon informed of who Joe was. Joe, at the age of twelve, a farmer’s son and only child, had been expelled from school because of brutality and beating up the other children, his vandalism, his incorrigible behavior …. and he had stabbed his father’s hogs, and calves and cows and horses with pitch forks.

And he several times tried to set the barn to fire and the house afire. Well, at the age of twelve his parents took him to court, had him committed to the Industrial School for boys. At the age of fifteen the Industrial School paroled him. On the way home Joe committed some burglaries and was picked up by the police and promptly returned to the Industrial School, where he had to stay until he was twenty-one years old. By that time his parents were dead and they disposed of their property leaving Joe without any inheritance. And when he was discharged at age twenty-one he was given a suit and $10, and he headed for Milwaukee …. And shortly arrested for burglary and sent to the Young Men’s Reformatory in Green bay. He served every day of that sentence – in other words, no time off for good behavior. He was released from the reformatory, he went into the town of Green Bay, and committed some more burglaries.

The police picked him up and he was sent to state prison. And when he completed every day of that sentence he was released, went into the village and committed some more burglaries and was arrested by another policeman and given a second term in the state prison. After serving every day of that term, he returned to the village. That day I arrived in the village it was his fourth day in town. Each of the three previous days he had spent standing beside the cash register estimating the day’s take of the merchants at three different stores. And all of them knew that Joe had broken into their store and stolen a lot of things. A man who owned a motor boat had found his motor boat missing. And the morning I arrived Joe was sitting on a bench under the store awning staring into the distance.

Now it happened that there was a farmer about three miles from the village, a farmer who had three hundred acres of company land. He was a very rich man, had beautiful buildings, and to work three hundred acres requires a hired man. And his daughter Susie had graduated from eighth grade, she was about five feet ten, and she could work alongside any man in the community. She could pitch hay, plow fields, help with the butchering … any task she could handle. The entire community felt bad about Susie. She was a good looking girl, she was famous for her housekeeping, her dressmaking and her cooking, and she was an old maid at twenty-three years. And that should not be. Everybody thought Susie was too choosy.

On that particular day when I went to the village on the errand, Susie’s father’s hired hand quit, because of a death in the family and said he would not be back. And Susie arrived, tied up the horse and buggy, came walking down the street. And Joe stood up and blocked her pathway. And Joe looked her up and down very thoroughly, quietly … and Susie with equal poise looked him up and down very thoroughly. Finally Joe said. “Can I take you to the dance next Friday?” Now the village always had a weekly dance on Friday nights for all the young people. And Susie was very much in demand at those dances and she regularly drove in and attended the dance. And when Joe said, “Can I take you to the dance next Friday?” Susie said coolly, “You can if you’re a gentleman.”

Joe stepped out of her way. She performed her errand, went back. And the next morning the merchants were very glad to find boxes full of stolen goods at their front doors. And the motor boat had returned. And Joe was seen walking down the highway towards Susie’s father’s farm. Word soon got around that he had asked Susie’s father for the job of hired hand, and he was hired. And made a magnificent wage of $15 per month. He was allowed to have his meals in the kitchen with the family. And Susie’s father said, “We’ll fix a room for you in the barn.”

Joe turned out to be the best hired hand that community had ever seen. Joe worked from sun up to long past sun down, seven days a week. Joe was six feet three, a very able bodied man and, of course, Joe always walked to the village on Friday nights to attend the dance. Susie drove in to attend the dance. And much to the ire of the other young men, Susie usually danced with Joe every dance. And Joe’s size made then wary of pointing out to Joe the error of his way by appropriating Susie. In just about a year the community was buzzing with the gossip because Susie and Joe were seen going out Saturday evening for a drive, or ‘sparking’, as the term was used. And there was even more gossip the next day – on Sunday - Susie and Joe went to church together.

And thereafter for some months, Joe and Susie went for a drive every Saturday evening and to church on Sunday. And after some months of this, Susie and Joe were married. And Joe moved from the barn into the house. He was still the best hired man imaginable and Joe and his father-in-law. With some aid of Susie, ran the farm. And Joe was such a good worker that when a neighbor got sick, Joe was the first one to show up to help with the chores. And they soon forgot all about Joe’s history of being an ex convict.

Now when I decided to go to high school a lot of the neighbors were displeased. But Joe encouraged me to go to high school and encouraged a lot of other kids to go to high school. I decided to go to university – the neighbors groaned about that Erickson kid becoming an educated fool and Joe encouraged me to go to college. He thought it was a very excellent idea for all young people to go to college. And Joe’s popularity in the neighborhood was such that he was elected to the school board. And at the first meeting of the school board all the parents were there. And Joe opened the meeting by saying, “You folks have elected me president of the school board. You gave me the most votes and that means president. Now I don’t know much about school. I know all of you want your kids to grow up decent kids with an education so they can live better lives than working from sun up to long after sun down seven days a week … and when you educate your children forget about taxes – hire the best teachers, and get the best school supplies, the best books.” And Joe was elected to the school board repeatedly. And Joe’s reputation literally blossomed anew from the day he hired out for $15 a month, which was later raised to $30 a month.

Eventually Susie’s parents died and Susie inherited the farm. Joe and Susie had no children but Joe had no trouble getting hired men. He went to the state reformatory for young men and asked for any young, promising ex-convict from the reformatory. The reformatory was for first time offenders.

Some of those men lasted a day, a week, a month, and some for months. As long as they worked Joe kept them around and treated them well. And he served to rehabilitate quite a number of ex convicts. When I got my job as state psychologist for Wisconsin to examine all inmates in penal and correctional institutions, Joe was very happy for me, and Joe told me. “There’s an old record at the Industrial School that you ought to read, an old record at the reformatory that you ought to read, an old record at the state prison that you ought to read.”

I knew what Joe meant, so I read the Industrial School record. It was very, very violent, Joe had been incorrigible, destructive and brutal in relationship to the other boys there and he had been kept in solitary confinement most of the time from the age of twelve to twenty-one. And his record at Green Bay reformatory was equally black. Joe had been very combative, aggressive. He was kept in solitary, took his meals in solitary. The guards were afraid of him. And when Joe was allowed out of his cell to exercise, two husky guards his size or larger walked through the exercise yard with him … one guard ten feet to the right, the other ten feet to the left. If Joe were to jump on one of them the second guard would have the chance to jump to the rescue of his fellow guard.

The record at the State prison was very, very black. Joe displayed his combativeness, his aggressiveness, his capacity to beat up fellow convicts and he served most of the time in the dungeon. The dungeon was eight feet by eight feet by eight feet, the floor sloped toward the door. It was a very thick, heavy wooden door with a small slot in the door at the base of the door and once a day, usually at one or two A.M a tray of food would slip quietly through that slot. And once a week the cell was hosed out for sanitation purposes. Now I’ve been in that dungeon … it is sound proof and light proof. And living in that darkness and silence practically all of his two terms in state prison is pretty severe punishment. And Joe never got a day off. When they did take him out of the dungeon they locked him in a solitary cell. He was exercised by two guards accompanying him, all alone in the exercise yard.

Now after the first sentence had been served at the prison, he went to the village and committed robberies and was sent back to the prison and they were all afraid of Joe. And the fellow convicts who I interviewed who knew Joe told me very earnestly. “That Joe is a bad one!” and they were afraid of him. And all the psychotherapy Joe received was; “You can if you’re a gentleman”.
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Joe had a reason to change and create a new life, in an instant he became a new man.
I wonder what reason or purpose you will discover to have the life that you want?
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Sunday 15 January 2012

Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can.
-- Richard Bach

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Friday 13 January 2012

What is Reality?

What is Reality?

Posted: Friday, January 13, 2012

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What is reality? we may say that there are many different levels or dimensions of reality and whatever level of reality you are in that is okay. Actors in a TV series are displaying story lines of characters that script writers have written. They come together in a studio and play out their roles. As viewers what do we see? We see a TV screen, a rather small object, and we watch the unfolding drama. We laugh, we cry, we get angry and we can empathize and identify with the lives on that screen. We can discuss the goings on of the characters of the show with our colleges at work and friends and partners. We discuss and contemplate the emotions and feelings of our TV friends. Their lives and behaviors and consequences seem real and we know it is not real, though I fear some people find it hard to appreciate that the actors are not the characters, that is, the characters are make believe, an illusion.

Sometimes actors get too identified with their character that they are portraying and they begin to feel that they are the character. Perhaps the character (especially the hero type) is more appealing to the actor than himself. They start to believe they are the character. The image becomes reality and this is what we do, we believe we are our image.
An image that we portray to the world and we imagine other people perceiving us in the way the image is intended. Images communicating to images, making lots of noise and much ado about nothing. And that is totally okay, there is nothing right or wrong about that. We all do it. It is just another layer built on preceding layers, just the very tip of the iceberg. If we are aware of the layers that are underneath, then we will be happy for we know more of our realities. But if we think that we are only the outermost or the topmost layer, then happiness etc will elude us and we will be deluded. The more layers we are aware of then the more we know of ourselves.

Enlightenment is knowing all of ourself. ‘Know thy self!’ has been echoed throughout our history by mystics and sages and yet how many of us truly want ‘to know myself’? Not just the behavior or why we do the things we do, not understand, not to know a small part of our self, but to Know all.

Knowing ourselves has been acknowledged by all the mystics and sages of the past as the key to enlightenment. Knowing ourselves is a wonderful and mysterious journey filled with awe. There is nothing to be afraid of and yet what prevents us is the fear of the unknown. More correctly it is the fear of ourself that creates the fear of the unknown. Our identity, the ego is the creator of this fear. Our ego fears its own creation, ego fears and is terrified of nothingness. It is terrified that if it reverses direction, instead of going outwards but going inwards it will end up at the beginning. At the starting point of itself, and what then but nothingness, oblivion. The ego will try to prevent you going in that direction, it will produce fear and terror, all fabricated. Illusion, trickery and sleight of hand, but feeling real nevertheless. It works and we simply regain our forward, outward, away from direction, it seems so logical, so logical, so logical, time moves forward, goes from here to there, let’s go that way.

And so we know little of our self, a single drop of water in all the oceans of the world and as we age we know less. The most liberating experience you can have on this plane of existence is reversing direction, diving in, going down and discovering what is there, passing through levels of awareness, becoming more as you do. And nothingness is the gateway, the door, the entry between soul and out here, simply a passageway, pass through and you have enlightenment. But your purpose is not to stay there, for that is what it is, it is all and complete and whole. Your purpose is to be aware of this and then move back through the passageway and up through the levels, with the only knowledge there is, the knowledge of you. You may choose to remove yourself from the noise and illusion of our materialistic world and become a recluse and spend as much time as possible inside and that is okay or you may do exactly what you were doing before and that is okay. Or anything in between.

You will now know more than the tip of the iceberg, you will have been a part of the iceberg, the totality of the iceberg and now there is nothing to fear. You know. What next then is up to you, your ego being just as important as the bliss, will have the ability to decide but decide on knowledge and truth rather than fear. There will be more calmness, a different type of calmness a calmness that is ever present, more of a peacefulness really, even when you are very actively involved in any sort of pursuit or action.

Here is an apt Zen saying, "Before Enlightenment chop wood carry water, after Enlightenment, chop wood carry water." The things that need doing are the same as before. What is different is that you are fully present doing the actions and it feels good doing them because you have chosen to do them. You appreciate, you love, you see illusion for illusion and you stop being illusion. All your uplifting strong emotions are small representations of soul. But words are just words.

So what is reality? Don’t we want to know what reality is? Reality is not meaning, not purpose, not searching, not seeking, not you, not I, not me, not us, not we, not them, not this, not that, not this and that, not time, not space, not boundaries, not love, not hate, not desire, not wants, not needs, not everything, not nothing, not anything.

Reality is a construct depending on where we observe and perceive our experience from -

  1. From a cell in our body
  2. From our inner mind
  3. From our ego – by far the most common and therefore universally accepted by mankind
  4. From mankind as a specie
  5. From life on the planet
  6. From the planet
  7. From the moon
  8. From the centre of a galaxy
  9. From the universe
  10. From outside the universe
  11. From a web that has no weaver
By Philip Martin


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Wednesday 11 January 2012

Simple Carrot Test helps you:

Simple Carrot Test helps you:
Find out how you can heal yourself

Harold Fiske in the National Examiner, 2/18/82, formerly published at http://thoughtscreate.com/articleexam.html

Well-known healer Charles R. Collins says you don't need faith healers to get well - you can do it yourself using the incredible power of the human mind.

And instead of dealing in vague mystical terms about the power of the mind, Collins says he can offer living proof that mental power [i]s a source of life and death, of sickness and health!
Collins, 47, lives in seclusion in Virgin, Utah, about 150 miles north of Las Vegas. It was in Virgin in the early '70s that Collins first discovered the mind is an instrument that can be tuned and controlled as easily as a musician can tune and control a fine instrument.

The result of mind control, says Collins, is amazing benefits to health and peace of mind. Collins says after he cleansed himself of disease and shed 80 pounds he decided to spread his message to others.
He wrote a book, The ABCs of Life, and opened a practice as a [fa]ith healer in Miami in the mid-70s. The basis of his philosophy is [sh]own in a simple experiment, he says.
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Monday 9 January 2012

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Sunday 8 January 2012

Time for Stillness

From the inner Journey Emails by http://www.higherawareness.com

TIME FOR STILLNESS

"We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget that the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it's all about."
-- Joseph Campbell

The sages all say that the path to liberation is found in entering the stillness within. To experience that stillness, we need to be willing to regularly stop the activity for a while. How do we do this in a busy life? We set our priorities. Perhaps it means giving up a TV program or using a coffee break to grab a few moments of solitude. Perhaps we have to ask our partner, relative or neighbour to give us 30 minutes of time away from the kids.
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-- Doug King

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The Power of Choice

The Power of Choice

A choice is a decision made between this and that , an acceptance of one thing and a rejection of the other. A choice is the beginning of a set of actions or a step in a process. As such it is evolutionary in that, once the choice is made, that is the end of one step and the next step is presented, that is, taking the action of the decision.
Choices or rather making choices are immensely empowering. When you have made a decision, (which is the acknowledgement making a choice) you have the experience that you are in control, for it is you that made the choice. All choices/decisions are empowering, the act of making a choice is always an empowering act. Don't confuse the act of making a choice with the outcome or result of the choice, that is a separate matter. Let's for the moment simply concentrate on choices. It is simply a fact, that when you make a choice you feel empowered and in control, no matter how fleeting the feeling is.
We can luxuriate in this feeling and give ourselves credit for making a choice, which will empower ourselves even more, for when we make a choice, we grow, we evolve, we become more. Think about it, imagine if you never make a choice !. It is not possible is it, if you don't make a choice - you don't exist. Choices are to be revered as our greatest gift to ourselves.
By Philip Martin

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Life Patterns, the Secret to Emotional Freedom

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The Joy of stillness

The Joy of Stillness : An Exclusive Renegade Health Article by Dr. J.E. Williams
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Yoga and meditation are great ways to ‘unplug’ from our digitally connected world, which leaves us little time for quiet.
Resident Medical Authority: J. E. Williams, OMD, FAAIM
On the first day of 2012, I went to the beach. The Gulf of Mexico was calm and reflective, and warm enough that I could take in the winter sun. During the holidays, I don’t go to cocktail parties, or raw vegan celebrations, or drum circles. This is because in order to have time to write – a solitary deliberate excursion into creativity – I require absolute quiet. To have time to think, a prerequisite to good writing, I need silence. For meditation, not only does the practice foster stillness, it requires utmost quite. And, as a clinician, I’ve found that healing requires all three: stillness, quiet, and a silent mind.
In our digitally connected world, shuttled about by cars, planes, and high-speed trains, where is the time for quiet? Or, for healing? Or, for balance?
As Americans, we spend too much time in front of a screen. The average American logs at least eight hours each day sitting and watching television or sitting and browsing the Internet. Electronic communication is almost instant. Texting and emailing, and social networking reaches friends, family, and followers across the globe. But, when do we find time for ourselves?
Read the whole article here

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Thursday 5 January 2012

The Healing Power of the Mind and Visualization

The Healing Power of the Mind and Visualization

Visualization Helps Foster Healing

A picture is worth a thousand words. We have heard that saying before. This phrase is certainly true in the case of visualization. Visualization, a form of self-hypnosis, is a tool anyone can use to help foster healing. By providing positive pictures (creative imagery) and self-suggestion, visualization can change emotions that subsequently have a physical effect on the body.


Our belief system is based upon the accumulation of verbal and non-verbal suggestions that have been gathered throughout our life experience. Through patterns of repetition and its associated rewards and punishment we learn to create our own perception of reality. In essence, we therefore become what we think. In healing, repetitive use of positive visualization allows access to the mind-body connection. This lets the mind and body work together to foster the healing process of the body on a physical level. What is the mind-body connection and how does it work? When we have an emotion it generates a feeling that turns into a physical sensation. For example: You are watching a horror movie, you feel frightened and then get a chill up your spine. In this case you were getting a negative suggestion through your sensory perception (sight and sound), that produced an emotion of fear which turned into the physical sensation of chills up your spine. Visualization uses positive images to produce positive emotions that manifest into positive physical sensations in the body.
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Tuesday 3 January 2012

Fruits of Healing the Hidden Self to Advance Soul

Fruits of Healing the Hidden Self to Advance Soul by Arjun Singhe

How the fruits of healing the hidden self helps you to find soul:
The fruits of healing your hidden self are fantastic. In as much the journey through reaching into your hidden self can be very hard as some of the things you can unearth can be hard to deal with but the benefits when you heal your inner self can be amazing.

One of the many benefits of healing your hidden self is the improved quality in your judgments. In our day to day decision making process our hidden subconscious mind affect how we approach our decision making process. If you heal your hidden self then one would be able make better decisions.
Take someone who has confidence issues in their hidden self in as much as they would not realize that their subconscious minds would avoid seriously considering positions which requires a lot of public speaking hence their full potential is always not reached in whatever Endeavour one would be pursuing.

When we bury things in our hidden self we might forget about them but they are still there lurking beneath and they affect our well-being, as well as those around us. If you heal your inner hidden self then you would reap the fruits of success.

Healing your hidden self reduces the amount of stress you have and a reduction in stress translates into a much more healthier person. Stress impedes us from being able to fight of illness and getting rid of stress would give us the ability to fight illness hence able to stay healthier. Stress free people are generally more productive and much more relaxed .If you are relaxed everyone around you will notice the difference and the more relaxed you are the easier you are to get on with and it helps you become more approachable and fun to be around. You will realize your relationships and friendships with people grow stronger and better. As soon as I healed my inner self the change was slow but gradual little by little things started changing and I was amazed as to how it changed my life for the better, I started getting on better with my family and my work colleagues which led to me leading a much fuller life. I was more at ease with myself and even went on to attempt things I never thought would be able to try.

When you have an ailing inner self, it seeps all the positive energy from you and once you heal your hidden self you are full of energy again. If you heal, your hidden self then you will have more energy, which will help, in your general well being, be it fighting stress or illness. You will find you have a renewed sense of being. You will be amazed at how much you can be done. Have you ever been just tired and feeling unmotivated, healing your inner self will give you a boost like none other. Do you remember the energy one has when they have just realized their dream can come through you can get that sense of passion and drive by healing your hidden self?

The fruits of healing your hidden self are amazing. Even though the journey is not an easy one it is worth taking because the benefits you will experience by dealing and healing your hidden self are phenomenal, no words can truly express what you will benefit but in material things success is the main thing you will experience and the inner peace you will get well is priceless.

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Controlling Your Anger

By Philip Martin
Many people have an issue with their anger and seek help to resolve their anger issues. It can be said that anger has a negative impact on their lives and sometime there is a heavy price to pay.

Anger seems to arise automatically from within the person and then there is the sense that they were out of control. No one enjoys the feeling of losing control and so the person may feel bad and insecure.
Anger is a range of emotions dictating a conflict between two or more persons, even if you are both people e.g.;  "I am mad with myself".  Anger can vary from frustration and irritation to being enraged.

What is the meaning or message of anger? What is the unconscious mind trying to communicate? -  The message is - that someone has broken or violated a rule that is held in your unconscious mind.

This part of your unconscious then feels personally abused, that something unfair has happened, that an injustice has occurred and it feels powerless to stop it. In this moment there is a temporary inner sensation of helplessness and vulnerability. When this happens you are instantly recapturing the feelings you felt when you experienced a helpless and powerless situation in childhood.

How to free yourself from this unpleasant emotion?

1. Realize everybody has different rules and place varying amounts of importance to them.

2. When you feel anger rising, ask yourself "Which one of my rules is being broken?"

3. Ask yourself "Is this rule important in this situation? Does it really matter?" If it does, then state your position, which sets clear boundaries.  E.g.: Someone has told a lie and your rule is 'to be honest', if it is an insignificant lie, you might decide it doesn't matter, anyway the lie belongs to them.  If you feel it is important, then you can say to them "I like being honest". Both ways diffuses the anger because you do not feel threatened or powerless.

4. Spend some quiet time writing out all the rules you think you may hold, regardless how silly some might seem. Then ask yourself  "did I   have a choice in accepting these rules (realize internal rules are  enforced upon us by our childhood environment) or were they thrusted on  me.

5. Write another list, this list to be rules you choose to have.

 Doing the above will help you to discover more about yourself and help to free you from anger and the frustration that follows  on from anger.


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Philip Martin is a Naturopath, Hypnotherapist and Author of “Life Patterns, the Secret to Emotional Freedom” and “The 5 Step Cancer Healing Process, a clear and defined pathway”. He is a gifted therapist based on the Sunshine Coast Qld. Australia.


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Sunday 1 January 2012

Thoughts are truly amazing things and yet we are so used to them, that we do not give them the consideration that they are worth. Why are they amazing? Well for one thing they are the most powerful thing in the universe! WOW what a statement. A thought: just a wisp of an idea. It is nothing really is it? Just thin air. And yet nothing is produced without a thought being thought first. The chair you are sitting on was first thought of. If you think about it, if there are no thoughts there would be no life, even trees think, in their tree like way, they struggle to survive and they use their information. If you never have another thought, what would it be like? Hard to comprehend isn't? Thoughts are the primal source of power in the world.

        The amazing thing about thoughts is that you create them, out of thin air, with just little fragments of knowledge. You coalesce and congeal these fragments of information into a single thought and then maybe into a train of thoughts, very amazing. These thoughts that you think then have a result, an effect on your life. The thoughts so to speak become a part of your reality; they make up your experience of life.

Our life experience is the mirror of our perceptions

        Your view of the world and your experience of the world is a reflection of your thoughts. Your thoughts create your reality, and you create your thoughts. Nobody else creates your unique thoughts, nobody! Just you. This is an inescapable fact that you have to come to terms with, and take responsibility for, or, you can deny you are the creator of your thoughts and hide from your responsibility. The choice is yours and yours alone.

        You create at least 50,000 thoughts a day. These thoughts make your tomorrow. What you think is what you get and your thoughts create an emotional effect, if you think sad thoughts - you will feel sad. If you think happy thoughts - you will feel happy. It works the other way too. If you feel sad you will most likely have sad thoughts, if you feel happy you will most likely have happy thoughts. Are you caught up in the acceptable (to the majority) social epidemic of creating negative and depressing thoughts? Evaluate the thoughts you have in a day. What do they say about your world? Do your thoughts create a wonderful world for you? Or do you believe the world is responsible for your feelings.

        If we are brave and take control of our thoughts and treat the ability to create this most powerful of forces, with the respect it deserves, we will create the thoughts that are in harmony with what we want in our life. And our life experience will then reflect those thoughts. In this way you will create the life you want. We are that powerful! We are that magnificent! Whether you want to believe that or not. It is true.

        How would your day be, if you wiped the slate clean and purposely chose what thoughts you would put in your mind for that day? If you did this for just one day, what effect would it have on that day, what effect would it have for the rest of your life? Just to choose what thoughts you would create on a particular day. Imagine the power of 50,000 plus wisely chosen thoughts occurring in you in one day.

        Imagine if after that day, your thoughts in the following week were similar to that one day, so for that week you had the power of over 350,000 powerful acts of creation. What could you do with 350,000 thoughts? What would you do? What would you create?

        We are trained not to think for ourselves, we are trained and taught to think of what others deem right or just. We are trained to be sheep. We are trained to feel safe in numbers and be accepted when we think alike. We are trained to feel afraid and rejected, if we think for ourselves and to be discerning. Imagine if we were taught the beauty of thinking for ourselves, of what thoughts to think. We would end up trusting ourselves, being in control of ourselves, being happy with ourselves, being responsible for ourselves, being able to rely on ourselves, we would feel safe, capable, and joyous. We would love living.

        If each waking hour on the hour, you purposely chose to think the thoughts that you want, for just five minutes. You will create a pattern of choosing beneficial thoughts that would become commonplace and you will create a life that is truly reflective of those thoughts. You will become master of your own destiny. Will you settle for anything less?

What we feed our mind today - we harvest tomorrow!

By Philip Martin

The need for Acceptance

By Philip Martin

The Need for Acceptance

"Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment."
-- Tao Te Ching


Before we are born, whilst we are in the womb, we are part of the womb, part of the mother, all connected, an intermingling of chemicals, energy and whatever else is there. When we are born, a physical connection is severed. And we breathe to obtain oxygen and we suckle at the breast for nutrition. Our senses pick up more sensations and we do not yet have the understanding that we are ourselves, that we are separate. We are very aware of how wonderful we feel. We are very aware of being, but we are unaware that what we see is not us. As a baby we feel that everything in our world is us, we cannot distinguish between out there and in here.

Every sense that we sense is a part of us, we experience the sensing, are we not the experience? We have experiences and because we feel those experiences, we naturally assume we are the experience. As the baby’s mind develops, it begins to learn that there is a difference between the world out there and the world in here. It begins to realise that the object/person called Mummy is not me. The baby/toddler then becomes aware of its vulnerability and at this point realises the need for acceptance of itself by its mother. It needs its mother to love it, in order to guarantee its own survival.

As the child grows and develops it imitates its parents as a form of love. The child does this because it loves its parents totally and a desire to be as like as its parents as possible. This is the aim of the child - to be one with the parents. This is how we learn most of our information, by mimicking our parents. In this way we guarantee our survival. We learn to be like our parents for they have survived and we learn their survival methods.

All young children have a desire for all in their world to love and be loved (In the earliest stages of life the baby is only aware of love and the absence of love). A child wants to be loved as it is, as his nature is, if we have to alter our nature and behaviour in a certain way to achieve love, then it is not us, our nature that they are loving. They are not loving the real us, they are loving what they want, how they want and we feel that our realness, our essence is not good enough.

At this stage in the young child’s development it is sure to have suffered some rejection. As rarely we love the child as completely and totally as much as the child wants to be loved. The child ends up with its need for acceptance being unfulfilled. This unmet need like all unmet needs creates pain for the child and the child seeks to avoid the reoccurrence of the pain by varying its behaviour. The child’s aim is to get more acceptance, but unfortunately the acceptance is rarely forthcoming. And the child either continues in attention seeking behaviour or avoidance behaviour which is denial of the need for acceptance (which is fear of rejection).

By now the child is maturing and another need, that of individuality is forming and the child needs to assert itself in the world. The child needs to be an individual and be self reliant. This need is obviously important for the young adult to ensure the survival of the species. This need for individuation though, competes with the need for acceptance. If the need for acceptance is fulfilled it is an easy passage to that of individuation. But sadly it is all too common for the need of acceptance to be unfulfilled and the young adult finds itself with the conflict of two important needs (that are now in competition) controlling it’s behaviour.

At this time the young adult displays the behaviour of conforming with its peers, behaving in a similar manner to his/her friends so as to be accepted. Though the more they behave in this accepting behaviour the more the need for being an individual (a somebody) becomes unfulfilled. If the young adult behaves in an individual manner the more its need for acceptance becomes unfulfilled. A real dilemma ensues and it is one that most teenagers find themselves in. This conflict of opposing needs reflects a conflict between oneness and duality that perpetrates the civilisation of mankind. Explored later.

The teenager matures into adulthood with the continuing struggle between unmet needs. One of these needs becomes more important than the other and the adult sacrifices one for the other. The behaviour pattern then is set. You attempt to fulfil the chosen need, alas to no avail.

For, if you choose to fulfil your need for individuation, you will simply become aware of the need for acceptance. You will simply feel unaccepted (rejected). Becoming an individual will just make you feel more distant from people and you will feel you don’t fit in or belong. If you choose to fulfil your need for acceptance, then you will become acutely aware that pleasing people just makes you feel like a nobody. Every time you do things to gain acceptance and be like your friends or do what is accepted. Just accentuates the void inside, which is where you as a unique individual belong.

Teenagers in particular but also adults can satisfy these opposing needs in a shallow fashion by forming gangs, clubs, sporting supporters etc. Whereby for example a gang, will have its identity and those in the gang feel a part of something, they feel accepted and by having the identity of the club they feel different (superior) to others. The identity of the gang is a single identity, they feel very individual whilst they are together and rejecting other such groups!

As this conflict continues we feel we have no control, which is a very important need. We feel we have no control because we cannot fulfil our needs of acceptance and individuation. To compensate for this lack of control we look for order in our lives. We like to be certain about things so that we know what is going on. We do this so we can feel safe, to have some semblance of control. Rules come in handy here. We want everybody to obey the same rules, and it seems to make us feel safe. It only temporarily makes us feel safe, and a pseudo safe it is. The thought of questioning or doing away with rules scares us. We think everything will fall into chaos, and what is chaos but the total lack of control.

We are afraid of chaos because we do not have self control. Our need for self control is unfulfilled. If our need for self control is unmet, then we cannot trust ourselves and we cannot rely on ourselves. We feel like we are inferior, a nobody, a nothing. The downward spiral continues. We become aware of how important the good opinion of others is to us. We live our life as a pretence. Portraying ourselves as nice good people etc and it is very important that others see us as a good person or a strong person or however we portray our self image.

The more we keep up this pretence, the more we are untrue to our real nature. We dare not let anyone see who we really are. Even the straight shooters, the people who say ‘What you see is what you get’ are likely to be fooling themselves.

Underlying all of this is a belief - ‘I am nothing/a nobody’. This belief may be easily felt or it may be a whisper of a feeling deep within, buried beneath layers of denial or numbness.

We do not want to look at ourselves. We want to fix the symptoms. We want to change the outside and we want the world to treat us better. We will do anything except look inside and this is understandable. Because we have the misconception, that we are nothing. I can tell you that it is a lie - this ‘I am nothing’ but because you believe it, you think I am wrong. Beliefs are extremely powerful but they are not necessarily true, they are only our individual perspectives.

The solution to your sufferings is to find your True Self. Accessing your True Self will enable you to have a wonderful life. The journey to your True Self is via the misconceptions and fears you have about yourself. Be willing to accept and acknowledge your fears about your self, investigate them and you will discover the truth of your True Self.

Begin today to accept your self as you are, as O.K, without guilt, embarrassment, shame or humiliation and you will ease your fears. Self Acceptance - it is your natural right.

It is easier to judge than accept. It is easier to reject than accept or are we just lazy? When we feel threatened we tend to react so that we survive. We either fight or flee, this is our first instinct, but if we accept the situation as it is, without judgement and accept the other viewpoints. We can make wise decisions instead of dangerous knee jerk reactions. I look at countries in conflict and it is like looking at young children in the school yard ‘You did it first’ - ‘No you did it first’ and on and on it goes. No acceptance of things as they are. Only blame as a reaction to threat. The reaction is a lack of mature self control and so we feel more vulnerable and we lash out to feel powerful. This only proves and escalates our weakness.

The emotional need of acceptance is the need to be accepted as we are in this moment. We are human beings. We do not need any further judgement, expectations or labels. Parents tend to see their children as they might be in the future. They see their own desires, wants and fears. It is truly a beautiful sight to behold when you see a parent accepting their child without any agendas or expectations. Many mothers do this when they have a new baby. For they simply see the baby as it is and the awe of this new life is accepted as it is. A new unique human being, perfect as it is! If only we carried this awe through life, this non judgemental awareness. In these moments these mothers are experiencing reality, they are witnessing what is. But sadly this is not appreciated for what it is and the mother is urged to forego this nonsense and start interfering, controlling, moulding, preparing, and get back to (so called) reality, and the essence of what is, once again is misconstrued. Alas.

This emotional need for acceptance in fact can only be manufactured by the individual. You are the only person who can fulfil your need for acceptance. For only by accepting yourself can you feel accepted. The acceptanceness is the feeling you feel after you have made it (the actual feeling of acceptance). It is uniquely your own experience, this holds true for every feeling. For only by accepting yourself can you then know you are accepted. Other people accepting you can feel good but without you accepting yourself, as you are, your need will continue to be unfulfilled and a source of anguish.

But why is there a need for acceptance and is there a deeper layer? Glad you asked. You do not need acceptance to survive. So it is not a need. Your ego needs it though, to survive (so it thinks), that is why it is an emotional need. Why does the ego need to be accepted, how can it not accept itself? Think about it, do you doubt your existence? Do you doubt you are reading this book? Do you doubt that the chair you are sitting on is there? Do you reject the chair? Do you doubt its existence? Do you need to accept the chair? Your answer to these questions is no, yet one of the questions, the answer is yes.

You do doubt your existence. This may sound ridiculous, but your identity/ego, explained later, formed early in childhood. And there was a period of time when your totality existed before the construct of the identity of you. The identity is a thing, something, a label and yet just before it was created it wasn’t there. The new identity feels like it came from nothingness. One moment it wasn’t there and the next moment it was and since that moment, ego has been deathly afraid of slipping back into nothingness and therefore ceasing to exist. From that first moment it has two possibilities. Two scenarios it lives with constantly, this or that. It can be nothing or something, no – body or somebody, existing or not existing, here or not here and it has no choice but to keep both possibilities/opposites.

Your ego lives constantly with this paradox, that at the same moment it is both nothing and something. It is impossible for the ego/identity to remove “I am nothing”. If it discarded and removed the “I am nothing” the “I am something” would disappear too. This happens for two reasons, one – when you get rid of the statement “I am nothing” you are also getting rid of “I am”, so you discard all “I am’s” and if you discard “I am”, what have you got? – nothing. Two – the ego/identity is a construct, it has no place, no form, no substance, in fact it is nothing. It is aware of something that it seems to control, own and communicate with, something that it is attached to. That is the body and that body was existing before ego/identity’s emergence but as I am this identity then I am not that which was before (the body). But as I have awareness of ‘something’ before my existence and I could only be Nothingness before my existence, then I am aware of nothingness and I was nothingness. Therefore there is an “ I am nothingness”, the ‘I’ cannot conceived of it not existing even though it knows of its beginning. This is because the identity of I is a concept and as such the identity can know what it is not (the body any everything else) but it cannot know what it is, as it has no form, no matter and if it can’t know what it is. It can’t know of its non existence. Hence mans desire, to know himself, to define himself to be validated and needing others to accept him. For if he is accepted by people (things that have form and matter, he sees them as whole but himself as an I within a body) then that may be proof that he exists and is real. More about these dilemmas later in Singularity and Duality and in Language.

Here is a beautiful piece of truth, very elegantly worded. It is worth printing out and placing it where you can see and read it every day.

ACCEPTANCE

Acceptance simply means that you make a commitment:

“Today I will accept people, situations, circumstances, and events as they occur,” This means I will know that this moment is as it should be. This moment … the one you’re experiencing right now .… is the culmination of all the moment you have experienced in the past. This moment is as it is because the entire universe is as it is.
When you struggle against this moment, you’re actually struggling against the entire universe. Instead, you can make the decision that today you will not struggle against the whole universe by struggling against this moment. This means that your acceptance of this moment is total and complete. You accept things as they are, not as you wish they were in this moment. This is important to understand. You can wish for things in the future to be different, but in this moment you have to accept things as they are.

When you feel frustrated or upset by a person or a situation, remember that you’re not reacting to the person or the situation, but to your feelings about the person or situation. These are your feelings, and your feelings are not someone else’s fault. When you recognize and understand this completely, you are ready to take responsibility for how you feel and to change it. And if you can accept things as they are, you are ready to take responsibility for your situation and all the events you see as problems. ....…
Author - Deepak Chopra

It’s you resistance to WHAT IS that causes your suffering .....… Buddha
"What concerns me is not the way things are, but rather the way
people think things are."
-- Epicetus
“At bottom every man knows well enough that he is a unique being, only once on this earth; and by no extraordinary chance will such a marvelously picturesque piece of diversity in unity as he is, ever be put together a second time.”
--Friedrich Nietzsche
"As long as I am this or that, I am not all things."
-- Meister Eckhart
"Inside every older person is a younger person--wondering what the hell happened."
-- Cora Harvey Armstrong

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How to cope with rejection?

By Philip Martin

How to Cope with Rejection?




How to Cope with Rejection?
As a baby we have one fear, we fear being separated. This is a survival mechanism, for if we are separated from our mother - we will perish. Though this is not necessarily so today, in our civilized world, this fear of separation is still inherited from our past.
While we are attached to an outer object (mother) and while we are in the womb, we are protected and safe. When we enter the world and are free from our safe womb, we still need the attachment of this same outer object. For we have changed little from being in the womb, we can breathe air but we are even more vulnerable.
As we grow we will initiate the separation process, when we feel the time is ready to begin self determination and autonomy. Any separation initiated by the mother before this time, will simply stir up the fear of separation and delay the harmonious onset of self determination.
We know this fear of separation as rejection. And rejection is the lack of acceptance. If we are accepted we feel good. The trap we fall into, is being aware of the fear of our early need for acceptance/attachment, and being afraid of re-experiencing this old fear. We attempt to gain acceptance from outside objects (people) and we temporarily feel satisfied when we succeed. To keep the fear at bay we have to continually gain acceptance. Hence the importance of other people's good opinion of us. We are so deathly afraid of rejection that we are forever threatened and hence we fail to ever truly gain true acceptance.
Rejection probably gives us more pain, and affects our lives more than any other emotion. Imagine your life if rejection doesn't matter to you and if you are unaffected if someone rejects you. Is it difficult to imagine you can feel that good about yourself? Well you can achieve that state. It is a matter of going in a different direction, a direction that really gets the results that you are after. That direction, of course is inside. Instead of avoiding or reacting and fighting rejection (which only reinforces the fear), the cure is to accept the feeling of being rejected.
That's right, for when you are feeling rejected and all its resultant agony, the truth is that you are feeling all this pain. Your natural reaction is to avoid it by fighting or fleeing. If you instead say to yourself, "I am feeling rejected, and that is O.K" and momentarily stay with the feelings, you are staying in control. This is important, because fear makes us feel we are not in control and we tumble back into our vulnerability, which escalates the fear and on and on the vicious cycle goes. But when you accept the fear by repeating the saying above, you have effectively stopped the cycle/pattern. The fear becomes less intense; you are subtly empowered even though you may be unaware of this empowerment. Now you ask yourself "what do I want to do now?" and do it. It may be leaving the situation or any other option, and you remain empowered because you know you are doing something for yourself, therefore you are somebody. You are remaining in control. You have accepted, rather than rejected the fear, hence you have more acceptance and less rejection.
By Philip Martin

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