Emotional Freedom Technique for LOVE
by Sherri Carter, MS, ATH Co-Editor of PsychoSpiritual
Editor’s Note from Sherri Carter: I love Emotional Freedom Technique! It really gets to the root issues, helps to release limiting beliefs while creating new emotional attachments to new truths of possibility! read the rest
Recommended Reading
Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom
Posted by Emotional Healing
Saturday, 18 February 2012
Monday, 13 February 2012
The Need for Acceptance
The Need for Acceptance
“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.”
– Tao Te Ching
Before we are born, whilst we are in the womb, we are part of the womb, part of the mother, all connected, an intermingling of chemicals, energy and whatever else is there. When we are born, a physical connection is severed. And we breathe to obtain oxygen and we suckle at the breast for nutrition. Our senses pick up more sensations and we do not yet have the understanding that we are ourselves, that we are separate. We are very aware of how wonderful we feel. We are very aware of being, but we are unaware that what we see is not us. As a baby we feel that everything in our world is us, we cannot distinguish between out there and in here.
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Posted by Emotional Healing
“Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.”
– Tao Te Ching
Before we are born, whilst we are in the womb, we are part of the womb, part of the mother, all connected, an intermingling of chemicals, energy and whatever else is there. When we are born, a physical connection is severed. And we breathe to obtain oxygen and we suckle at the breast for nutrition. Our senses pick up more sensations and we do not yet have the understanding that we are ourselves, that we are separate. We are very aware of how wonderful we feel. We are very aware of being, but we are unaware that what we see is not us. As a baby we feel that everything in our world is us, we cannot distinguish between out there and in here.
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Posted by Emotional Healing
Sunday, 5 February 2012
Digging deeper into 'I can'
Digging deeper into 'I can'
In the last posting I mentioned the importance of ‘I can’, this is important for you in achieving your goal, for it acts as a door opener. It begins to establish a direction which leads to the future, and somewhere along that direction or path is the future you, with the successful attainment of your goal.
The mind automatically follows a direction, and if you are not happy with your results today, then you have followed a direction that is incompatible with your desires. If you are unhappy, with your results so far, then these results are compatible with the direction/path that you are on. You have been following this path for years or if not that long, then since a life changing event. A life changing event creates a change in direction, which is why it is life changing. From the moment the direction changed your life is different.
When articulating the problem, we generally look at the details, yet it is the big picture that needs articulating first. Once you are aware of the big picture, then the details can be seen where they fit into the big picture.
The problem can be detailed such as ‘I am unhappy with my life and I want to be happy with my life’ or something similar. This is the general big picture in relation to happiness. It is important not to look for blame with statements such as ‘I am unhappy because ……’ This is a natural tendency, for we feel if we know the cause then we can fix the problem and we want to fix it as soon as possible. But when we do this, we are simply creating a knee jerk reaction to some minor part in the problem, we are not looking at the big picture.
The problem is that you are experiencing life a certain way and you desire a different experience. Though this is simple, it can be confusing for we are used to seeking details.
Bear with me as I continue to harp on what may seem an insignificant point. When we are struggling in any area and we are unhappy with life, then we naturally look for simplistic causes, for this is the way the conscious mind and our ego function. They are very linear and see everything in terms of A caused B and B caused C. And as it is You (the identity of the ego and conscious mind), then you will simply function this way.
However, your experience of life is determined by the unconscious patterns which are in harmony with the unconscious direction. The pattern and direction always co exist in harmony. The pattern and direction joined together create your life experience.
So in looking to be successful, you need to change the patterns and the direction of your life. To show you a little about the power of patterns and direction, please reflect on these questions:
In every situation there are costs and benefits, in no. 2 above you may be aware of the benefits to being happy, but not the costs and in no. 3 you probably are aware of the costs of having a lack of successs but not the benefits. What you are unaware of is the unconscious motivation and the unconscious is very aware of costs in no.2 and the benefits in no.3.
See how you go with these questions and your reflections. To be continued:
Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct
experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.
-- Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson
Recommended Reading
Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom
posted by Healing Cancer
In the last posting I mentioned the importance of ‘I can’, this is important for you in achieving your goal, for it acts as a door opener. It begins to establish a direction which leads to the future, and somewhere along that direction or path is the future you, with the successful attainment of your goal.
The mind automatically follows a direction, and if you are not happy with your results today, then you have followed a direction that is incompatible with your desires. If you are unhappy, with your results so far, then these results are compatible with the direction/path that you are on. You have been following this path for years or if not that long, then since a life changing event. A life changing event creates a change in direction, which is why it is life changing. From the moment the direction changed your life is different.
When articulating the problem, we generally look at the details, yet it is the big picture that needs articulating first. Once you are aware of the big picture, then the details can be seen where they fit into the big picture.
The problem can be detailed such as ‘I am unhappy with my life and I want to be happy with my life’ or something similar. This is the general big picture in relation to happiness. It is important not to look for blame with statements such as ‘I am unhappy because ……’ This is a natural tendency, for we feel if we know the cause then we can fix the problem and we want to fix it as soon as possible. But when we do this, we are simply creating a knee jerk reaction to some minor part in the problem, we are not looking at the big picture.
The problem is that you are experiencing life a certain way and you desire a different experience. Though this is simple, it can be confusing for we are used to seeking details.
Bear with me as I continue to harp on what may seem an insignificant point. When we are struggling in any area and we are unhappy with life, then we naturally look for simplistic causes, for this is the way the conscious mind and our ego function. They are very linear and see everything in terms of A caused B and B caused C. And as it is You (the identity of the ego and conscious mind), then you will simply function this way.
However, your experience of life is determined by the unconscious patterns which are in harmony with the unconscious direction. The pattern and direction always co exist in harmony. The pattern and direction joined together create your life experience.
So in looking to be successful, you need to change the patterns and the direction of your life. To show you a little about the power of patterns and direction, please reflect on these questions:
- If you had success now, you were happy with yourself and you were happy with your life, would this fit? Can you see yourself remaining like this for the rest of your life? Are you the type of person who can be like this? Are you worth it? Have you the right to be successful? Do you have permission to be successful? Do not answer too quickly or get angry at the questions, just allow yourself to reflect and be curious of what answers emerge. Because you want to be successful and happy etc, but are there any parts of yourself that do not want this goal. Are any parts of your unconscious that is against you achieving your goal?
- What is the worst thing that will happen if you are a success andhappy with yourself etc? This may sound like a weird question, and what is the first response (after you say nothing) you get? It doesn’t matter how ridiculous the answer is.
In every situation there are costs and benefits, in no. 2 above you may be aware of the benefits to being happy, but not the costs and in no. 3 you probably are aware of the costs of having a lack of successs but not the benefits. What you are unaware of is the unconscious motivation and the unconscious is very aware of costs in no.2 and the benefits in no.3.
See how you go with these questions and your reflections. To be continued:
Relative to the level of awareness that is possible for us, our ordinary state of consciousness is as far from a direct
experience of reality as sleep is from waking consciousness.
-- Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson
Recommended Reading
Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom
posted by Healing Cancer
Thursday, 2 February 2012
"I Can'
Being happy with yourself – “I can”
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” -- Alvin Toffler
What can I do? This is an important question to ask when one wants to overcome a problem, and being sad and unhappy is a problem for it interferes with the smooth functioning of the body and the appreciation of the life experience. Being sad or unhappy occasionally as a result of certain effects is understandable and desirable. But many are unhappy with themselves and so unhappiness is a continual undercurrent of their life.
So "What can I do?" is asked in relation to the perceived problem. How do you perceive the problem? The first step in finding a solution to a problem is to fully understand and articulate the ‘problem’. Many assume they know what the problem is and yet are actually unaware of the real problem. So the real solution will not be found. You may be unhappy, sad depressed, these are effects or symptoms and though they create additional problems, they are not the problem.
If you are happy with yourself then you will not have these problems. Though this is true, the wrong assumption of finding, trying or know how to be happy will provide happiness and therefore problem solved. Most of the how to be happy techniques only have a temporary effect as they do not address the underlying problem. So without a clear understanding of the problem, when you ask “What can I do?” you become deflated and feel vulnerable, for you probably assume that you can do very little.
This is a huge mistake and a lie. Feeling that you can do little or nothing, you then put your life in the hands of the experts, whoever that may be. It may seem logical to trust these people, but putting your life in the hands of anyone, has the unconscious meaning that you have no control over your life and living. This is detrimental to the healing process. You truly become a victim of your unhappiness rather than master of your health, life and living.
Seeking expert help is extremely beneficial and should be sought, but make sure you are in control. You are enlisting their help and assistance. They are not there to ‘fix’ you, you are there to learn something valuable to use in your life. You are using them to empower yourself. When you ask the question "What can I do?" Answer, "I will be happy with myself", "I will love myself", "I will be healthy" or use “I can” instead of “I will”. “I will” has a commitment applied and is therefore stronger and leads into the future. Though if this doesn't feel true, then use "I can", this accepts the possibility that you or anybody can be happy with themselves. Realize that "I can" or "I will" is more important than knowing how! Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you have to know how. The how will Always appear once you accept "I will".
Knowing and committing to a goal is a prerequisite to knowing how. Once you accept that you will be healthy (or achieve any goal) the creative unconscious mind will create or discover the how to. Become an ‘I can’ person, overcoming obstacles, no matter how difficult, makes you a stronger person. In reality, nothing is too hard or difficult once you admit ‘I can’. When you state ‘I can’ you unleash unconscious potentials, that you most likely were not aware of. You have exactly the right amount of potential and capacity to achieve health and freedom from cancer, within you, this is a fact. ‘I can’ is a gateway to that potential. Try it out! Next i will write about articulating the underling problem.
Cheers
Recommended Reading
Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom
Posted by Healing Cancer
“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” -- Alvin Toffler
What can I do? This is an important question to ask when one wants to overcome a problem, and being sad and unhappy is a problem for it interferes with the smooth functioning of the body and the appreciation of the life experience. Being sad or unhappy occasionally as a result of certain effects is understandable and desirable. But many are unhappy with themselves and so unhappiness is a continual undercurrent of their life.
So "What can I do?" is asked in relation to the perceived problem. How do you perceive the problem? The first step in finding a solution to a problem is to fully understand and articulate the ‘problem’. Many assume they know what the problem is and yet are actually unaware of the real problem. So the real solution will not be found. You may be unhappy, sad depressed, these are effects or symptoms and though they create additional problems, they are not the problem.
If you are happy with yourself then you will not have these problems. Though this is true, the wrong assumption of finding, trying or know how to be happy will provide happiness and therefore problem solved. Most of the how to be happy techniques only have a temporary effect as they do not address the underlying problem. So without a clear understanding of the problem, when you ask “What can I do?” you become deflated and feel vulnerable, for you probably assume that you can do very little.
This is a huge mistake and a lie. Feeling that you can do little or nothing, you then put your life in the hands of the experts, whoever that may be. It may seem logical to trust these people, but putting your life in the hands of anyone, has the unconscious meaning that you have no control over your life and living. This is detrimental to the healing process. You truly become a victim of your unhappiness rather than master of your health, life and living.
Seeking expert help is extremely beneficial and should be sought, but make sure you are in control. You are enlisting their help and assistance. They are not there to ‘fix’ you, you are there to learn something valuable to use in your life. You are using them to empower yourself. When you ask the question "What can I do?" Answer, "I will be happy with myself", "I will love myself", "I will be healthy" or use “I can” instead of “I will”. “I will” has a commitment applied and is therefore stronger and leads into the future. Though if this doesn't feel true, then use "I can", this accepts the possibility that you or anybody can be happy with themselves. Realize that "I can" or "I will" is more important than knowing how! Don't fall into the trap of thinking that you have to know how. The how will Always appear once you accept "I will".
Knowing and committing to a goal is a prerequisite to knowing how. Once you accept that you will be healthy (or achieve any goal) the creative unconscious mind will create or discover the how to. Become an ‘I can’ person, overcoming obstacles, no matter how difficult, makes you a stronger person. In reality, nothing is too hard or difficult once you admit ‘I can’. When you state ‘I can’ you unleash unconscious potentials, that you most likely were not aware of. You have exactly the right amount of potential and capacity to achieve health and freedom from cancer, within you, this is a fact. ‘I can’ is a gateway to that potential. Try it out! Next i will write about articulating the underling problem.
Cheers
Recommended Reading
Life Patterns the Secret to Emotional Freedom
Posted by Healing Cancer
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